How addicts feel

A person suffering from addiction has a frame of mind that can be described as chaotic and detached from reality. Their minds tend to run a million miles an hour:

• They become ashamed of the past and fearful of the future.
• It’s difficult for them to live in the present.
• They often become extremely suspicious and paranoid, convinced that everyone is thinking about them and judging them.

In the depths of addiction, an addict’s mind starts to equate using with living and not using with risk of death. As a result, their behavior to outside observers may look quite irrational most of the time.  

Living to use, using to live

In active addiction, a person becomes used to a life style that is increasingly more dangerous and harmful. The areas of the brain used for judgment and decisions are largely disabled or blocked. The resulting behavior is that of someone who lives to use and uses to live.

Stealing, lying, cheating and worse become common place. These default neuropathways are that of the suffering addict. Until this is interrupted and new neuropathways formed, the chances of recovery are slim.

Applying the Four Agreements

Striving to follow the Four Agreements enables recovering addicts to form robust neuropathways as they incorporate ongoing learnings from therapy. They learn to do their best in all they do, realizing it is all they can do.

In the depths of their disease, addicts have been their worst selves. Generally, they are very sensitive people, even more so when very ill. Therefore, learning to not take things personally and gaining the skills to do so is a very big step. They realize it does not matter what anyone thinks so long as they are doing their best.

Don’t assume, don’t lie

Learning not to assume things is also critical. Many addicts believe that the world is out to get them – that the world is conspiring against them. Of course this is not true but learning not to assume is a critical skill that can help tremendously. The uncomfortable paranoia slips away.

Lastly, learning to be impeccable with your word is vital. In the depths of their disease, an addict tells lie, after lie, after lie. Being impeccable with your word is the exact opposite. They learn that it feels much better to live in their truth than the lies and deception of addiction. 

In short, the Four Agreements help put recovering clients on a very robust path. Life becomes easier, more meaningful and the simple joys of living start to re-emerge.

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